Have you ever felt irritable, ignored, unloved, deprived or resentful?
How about Angry?
Of course you have.
We all experience uncomfortable feelings,
when our emotional needs aren't met.
Who is responsible for seeing these needs get filled?
Big shock, I know.
Most of us hold our emotional needs deep inside,
where we're unaware of their hunger.
At some point they reach out in desperation
and we do something outrageous or destructive to stave off starvation.
That's right, starvation.
Our emotional needs are real.
A part of us that lives, breathes and struggles to survive.
When they aren't fed, they act.
If you were starving, skin and bone, and sure to die without nourishment,
you might be willing to dine from a garbage can.
It would be understandable.
Self preservation is strong.
Emotional needs are just as powerful and demanding.
They can drive us to act in bizarre ways when unmet.
And it can be down right ugly when they do.
This is why it's wise to acknowledge that niggling voice,
that emotional discomfort that has you irritated and crabby.
Those are the rumblings of hunger.
And hunger will not be denied.
Oh, you can try to ignore it.
But you won't win against survival instincts.
They cause a lonely person to sleep with the wrong partner.
The controller to lose a job because of an argument with their boss.
The pleaser to say yes to everything, overload themselves,
fail and please no one.
If we desire successful lives,
we need to fill those emotional needs,
before they fill themselves any way possible.
A starving man will eat about anything.
A starving need will do the same.
Stop feeling guilty for trying to survive.
Get over it.
Feed the need and head off behaviour that elicits destruction and guilt.
A short list of common needs:
To be loved:
Adored, valued, cherished, prized, honored respected,
cared for, saved, approved, listened to, included, treasured.
When one of these needs resonates with you, write it in your journal.
It's hungry. Pay attention.
To be right, control, dominate, to feel important,
to serve, to be served, to be noticed, independent, to follow,
comfort, to grow, safety, peace, play, touch, to succeed, loyalty,
power, abundance, work, order, perfection.
The list could go on.
If something pops into your head, add that to your list.
Acknowledge your rumbling needs,
before they go dumpster diving.
Stop consuming rotten sustenance to survive.
Ignoring needs doesn't solve anything.
It isn't a sign of self control or strength,
it's weakness that denies the truth.
You are strong.
Pick your top three needs.
Now that you have them,
choose to feed them in healthy, productive ways.
No need to exist on garbage,
when the worlds abundance is before your eyes.
Choose the best and fill your plate.
Don't wait until your desperate.
This week, work to fill your needs in healthy ways.
Please comment on your results.
Needs are part of being human.
It's a good thing.