It's as sad when your life revolves around the lack of money, as when its abundance is the focus. The trick is to learn to manage your finances, so you have enough to meet your needs, and be free of worry. There are two ways to accomplish having enough money, earn it or save it.
Ah, but where's the fun in that?
The enjoyment comes when you can easily pay cash for your purchases. When you pay off your credit cards, your car, have money in the bank and your house is free and clear.
"But that will take forever," you groan. "I need stuff now. I'm lonely, depressed, and shopping makes me feel better."
It may distract you for a time, but soon enough the fix wears off and you look for your next hit. Too many of us use money as a drug. The truth, money is a tool, only a tool. Something to be utilized to your benefit like a hammer. Do you take it in hand and build your life or tear holes in it?
Buying more of what you don't need won't fill up what you do need.
I know a woman that shops compulsively. Her marriage is a bust, her relationships with her children are strained. So she shops. And when she returns home with her bags of merchandise, she hides them under the stairs and cries.
How are you using money? This week, list your purchases in three categories.
1. Necessity: Pay the electric bill
2. Discretionary: Buying coffee on sale now rather than when you'll need it, but pay full price.
3. Totally not worth it: The bag of chocolate bars that ruined your diet.
At weeks end, tally where your purchases fall.
Are you using your money responsibly until a fight with your lover has you storming to the mall, credit card in hand? It happens, but it doesn't have to. Who is in control here? It's not the money. Only you hold the reins of power.
Write how you feel in your journal rather than spend. Notice how you feel when you want to buy something and why. How do you feel when you say no? What self talk haunts you? What positive phrase could you use to replace that lie? Put it all in your journal.
Is the price worth the momentary rush?
You're worth more than a quick fix. Rely on the knowledge that you rule your actions. You're strong, and deserve the freedom and peace of having enough.